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Thursday, April 30, 2015

Mother's Day is coming up.....

Do you have a sister or friend who is pregnant or nursing?  Do you know a new mom at your parish?  Would you like to encourage her with a special nursing mother's gift package from CNML for Mother's Day?  If so, send an email to catholicbreastfeeding(at)yahoo(dot)com with the woman's name, mailing address and which book you think she might like: Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood, Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing, The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding: The Frequency Factor, or Getting Started with Breastfeeding: For Catholic Mothers.  Also included in the Mother's Day package is a one decade mother's rosary, an Our Lady of La Leche medal and prayer card, Theotokos Chaplet prayer card, and Holy Family Institute prayer card.

Friday, April 24, 2015

CNML Kindle Book Lending Library

Do you have a kindle or kindle app on your iPad or iPhone?  Thanks to the suggestion of one of CNML's board members, we now have an online lending library!  All you need to do is send us an email at catholicbreastfeeding(at)yahoo(dot)com and please include your name, personal email address (not your send to email kindle address), and title of the book you would like to borrow.  Once we receive your email, we will set up your 14 day loan.  It is that easy!

Here are the current titles:

Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood by Sheila Kippley

If you know of any other books that agree with the CNML philosophy, please let us know and we will consider adding more titles.


Monday, April 13, 2015

CNML Group Registration Form



Please read and agree to the following:

Statement of Faith of the Catholic Nursing Mothers League, Inc.
·         The Catholic Nursing Mothers League acknowledges that the Catholic Church was founded by Christ, and the League assents to all that the Church authentically teaches through the Magisterium.
·         The teachings of the Roman Pontiffs and the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith are accepted by CNML as authoritative.
·         In particular, the Catholic Nursing Mothers League assents to the following specific teachings that bear on our work as supporters of breastfeeding mothers:

1. We respect the sanctity of all human life from conception to natural death.  We oppose all forms of abortion, both surgical and via abortafacient devices and drugs.
2. We believe that marriage is between one man and one woman and that children are the supreme gift of marriage.  We believe that married couples are called to be generous in the service of life and to exercise responsible parenthood.
3. We reject all unnatural forms of birth control, and we reject as contrary to God’s plan all means of seeking conception in which technological interventions are substituted for the marriage act. We accept the morality of natural means of birth regulation for couples with a serious reason to space their children.
I agree with the above CNML faith statement.
Sign/type name: _________________________________ Date:______________

Please read and agree to the following disclaimer:

Disclaimer of the Catholic Nursing Mothers League
The Catholic Nursing Mothers League (CNML) does not train or accredit breastfeeding counselors or insure its group leaders.  Any info obtained through a CNML leader or group should be verified with a health care provider or other appropriate licensed professional and does not constitute medical, legal or professional advice.  CNML is not responsible or liable for any info shared in a group or in any communication with its group leader.  The role of a CNML leader is to share personal experience and resources she has found helpful in her personal experience and to facilitate the sharing of info, experiences and support by mothers attending the group.
(If you have a breastfeeding credential, add this as the next paragraph of the disclaimer in addition to more detailed info about your particular credential and insurance:)  Sometimes a CNML group will be facilitated or led by an individual who holds a professional credential related to health care or breastfeeding (MD, RN, CNM, CPM, IBCLC, certified breastfeeding counselor, certified childbirth educator, etc).  If she offers any info or support that is within the scope of her credential, she does so on her own authority and under the coverage of her own liability or malpractice insurance.  CNML does not endorse any specific credential, and individuals attending CNML meetings or communicating with CNML leaders rely on the professional advice offered entirely at their own risk.
I agree to read the above disclaimer at each CNML function and to provide it at the top of my sign in sheet for each CNML function.

Sign/type name: _________________________________ Date:_______________

Please read and agree to the CNML leader policy:

CNML Leader Policy
CNML leaders may share 1) personal breastfeeding experiences, 2) info they have obtained about breastfeeding from a reliable source (if they are able to identify the source on request), and 3) experiences other mothers have shared with them, in the course of leading CNML meetings and communicating directly with mothers (and others).

Under NO CIRCUMSTANCES should CNML leaders give medical advice, including but not limited to, advice about the safety of particular drugs while nursing (prescription or non-prescription), herbs, supplements or other substances, advice about whether a baby's weight gain is sufficient, or whether a baby should receive supplemental formula.  Any advice that could affect a baby or a mother's health should be referred to an appropriate health care provider.  The same policy applies to legal or other types of professional advice.

A CNML leader may share info (not give advice) in the following ways, using these verbal or written formulations:

1) personal experience - if you have personal experience with a breastfeeding question or concern, share your experience prefaced by "in my own experience, I found that..."

2) info you have read - if you have read or heard info you feel would be helpful ( from a reliable source), share it prefaced by "my information is that..." and be able to state where you found the info. You may consider having a breastfeeding book handy in case you want to read info from it when a question comes up.  Some possibilities: The Baby Book (updated and revised edition 2013) by The Sears family; Sheila Kippley's three breastfeeding books: Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood, Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing, and The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding: The Frequency Factor; Getting Started with Breastfeeding: For Catholic Mothers by Gina Peterson)

3) Info you have learned from other mothers sharing their experiences - if you have encountered other mothers who have dealt with the same issue, share it prefaced with "I know some other mothers who have found that..." Or "many mothers find..." Be careful not to share confidential info. If you are sharing another mother's experience, be careful to protect her identity and privacy.  Share in a generic way, as in "I once knew a mother who found that..."

NEVER give advice, i.e. never tell a mother "you should do X" or " You should not do X."  CNML leaders are only authorized to share info they have read or heard from reliable sources (if they can identify the source) and personal experience or the experiences of other mothers shared with them.
Questions related to weight gain, formula supplementation, medications, or possible health problems of baby or mother - even if they seem trivial - should ALWAYS be referred to a health care provider.  Questions related to divorce, custody, or other legal matters should always be referred to a lawyer.  Questions related to postpartum depression or other mental health issues can be shared and discussed in the manner described above but should also be referred to a health provider or mental health provider.
If CNML leaders limit their sharing to personal experience, info obtained from reliable (and Identifiable) sources, and the experiences of other mothers they have known (while protecting confidentiality and privacy), they should not exceed the limits of CNML as a Catholic ministry/support group  which does not accredit and insure breastfeeding counselors.
If you are a credentialed professional, you will need to draft your own disclaimer form describing your scope of practice and stating whether or not you are insured.  In the CNML forum, you may act within the scope of your credential as long as you are doing so on a volunteer basis (not using CNML for profit-making purposes) and as long as you made the full CNML disclaimer, as well as your individual informed disclosure document available to all who are in contact with you through CNML.

I agree to follow the above CNML leader policy.
Sign/type name:___________________________________   Date:___________

What contact info for your group would you like on the CNML website and blog?

Thank you!  Please email these completed forms to CNML will contact you soon to discuss any questions you may have and to provide you with the latest copy of the Resource Guide for Starting a CNML Group and any complimentary items you might want for your group.  Rest assured, the Resource Guide makes it EASY to start and lead a local CNML group in your town and/or parish!  You do not need to reinvent the wheel!  Also, CNML provides ongoing support to CNML leaders through the CNML leader facebook page. If you are not on facebook and desire an alternate form of support such as email or a yahoo group, let us know and we will see what we can do!  We appreciate your interest and time in taking part in this valuable ministry!  As always, donations are very much appreciated! CNML is a 501© 3 non- profit organization run completely upon donations and volunteer time.  Only a very small monetary amount goes to annual charity registration and website fees; the rest goes to resources for supporting nursing mothers and assisting CNML groups.

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Some Thoughts on Weaning

Weaning done gradually and when mom and baby are both ready is the ideal.  However, what about when weaning is necessary for the mother to care for her temple of the Holy Spirit?

A close friend of mine was diagnosed with a chronic illness that causes her body to break down.  She needs to get on several strong medications contraindicated while breastfeeding in order to stop the attacks on her body and to allow her body to heal.  She really struggled with the situation.  Her baby was not ready to wean.  She tried to distract her with daily trips out of the house and with sippy cups filled with yummy, healthy drinks.  But if her baby really wanted to nurse, she would go ahead and do just that.  Because her baby kept desiring to nurse, she was thinking of postponing treatment out of love for her baby.  In the end, everything worked out - she was able to gently encourage her baby to wean just in time start her medications.

My friend is glad to be starting on the road to improved health, but she is still sad at needing to wean her little angel much earlier than anticipated.  There are so many emotions involved with weaning and also hormonal changes that can make it a bitter sweet affair.  Maybe others will not understand why you needed to wean?  There might be feelings of guilt or frustration with your body.  You might wonder if your baby still needs you?  Will you still feel that same closeness with your baby?  Will others still treat you in that special way reserved for pregnant women and new mothers?

Then there is the situation that a few moms out there will understand - how will you feel after your youngest weans on his or her own after you have breastfed so many babies almost non-stop for more than a decade or a decade and a half? Will you be able to move onto another chapter of your life - one that doesn't involve nursing bras and nursing babies to sleep and comforting toddlers at the breast?

When I was thinking about the topic of weaning now that we have just finished Lent and have celebrated Easter Sunday, I was thinking that there are some parallels between Lent and Easter and weaning.  It can be a sacrifice to let that nursing relationship go due to chronic illness or due to your child being ready to move on.  However, there is joy at the end - cherishing those wonderful nursing memories that you will always have, knowing how many physical and emotional benefits of breastfeeding you passed onto your child, and the beauty of following God's natural design and waiting expectantly for the next road God will lead you on.